Dating and children after a divorce
remembers the conversation she had with her two sons following one of their regular visits with herex-husband.Both boys were brimming with news about Daddy's new friend, Joanne.But when she referred to their father as someone who was dating, the children were quick to insist that she was wrong."Daddy told us he won't date until we're in college," they declared.
They both live with me, although their father lives in the next town and my son often stays with him. When should I tell my kids that I am dating and when should I introduce them to this new person in my life?Teens are not interested in the new partner giving parenting advice unless they are solicited.New partners need to learn to ask questions, show interest in the things they do but don’t give advice.They are dealing with their own issues of loss, betrayal, adjustment, trust- just to name a few.Parents need to make sure before things get tricky that children understand their continued importance to them, the freedom for the child(ren) to continue a close loving relationship with the ex-spouse (despite any personal misgivings) and the possibility of new people in the parent’s life.
Time has to be given to the transition of adjusting to this new person.